The Three of Swords is the card of heartache. It refers to deep sorrow, grieving, and yearning. For the Sufis, however, pain—though not what one seeks—can be a great catalyst for spiritual transformation. As Rumi explains, there is a quality waiting to be born in us, but until we go through the pangs of child-birth, it will not be born. What quality is asking to be born in you? When this card appears for you, you are being guided to a place of healing by confronting, feeling, and moving through your pain. Be gentle to yourself as you do so. This experience is unique yours; no one can prescribe a time limit for your emotions or tell you what to feel.